Wednesday, August 08, 2012

My Best Friend's Wedding -- It's About Timing

Several weeks ago, I had the opportunity to watch my best friend get married for time and eternity at the Salt Lake Temple.  I was going to write the story of how they met, but that's a different story for a different time. However, I wanted to write about what I learned from the experience.

1) Be yourself.  My friend was often self-conscious around women, never acting like himself.  It's a problem I, myself have.  I know that in my case, it's because I want women to see I have a serious side.  However, my friend decided when we started attending the Ward of Misfit Toys that he was giving up on finding a wife.  I saw a very different public side of him, and that is what first drew his wife to him.

2) Don't over analyze things.  There were multiple times when they were first going out that he would tell me he had done something wrong and that she probably wouldn't ever talk to him again.  And then she'd come up to talk to him at church.

3) At the Temple for a wedding/sealing, the sealer takes time to talk to all of the family and friends in the room.  I wish there was a point during regular temple sessions that someone would just share a random insight with the attendees.  It seems like this insight is always as much for me as anyone else.

4) The insight from the sealer was that when we go to the temple, we always think about the work we are doing for the dead.  However, we also need to remember to be there for ourselves.  A good reminder.