Fabulous Adventures in non-Dating

I was playing with google last night. I typed in "fabulous dating adventures."

This blog came us first.

However, that led Shaun and I to talk.

We both agreed that the reson why we don't post to this blog very often is because we don't have many fabulous adventures in dating.

Shaun said it was because his advetures aren't always fabulous.

I said it's because my fabulous adventures don't include dating.

In any case, I promise to include dating in my fabulous adventures, and to share with you the journey...

-Bob

James E Faust: Dating "sacred"

"Occasionally someone suggests it be appropriate to have a computer dating program set up under church auspices, or some kind of marriage search committee set up so that the Church could more directly be involved in marriage partner selection. My response to such suggestions is that the selection process for eternal companions is so sacred that no one can or should intrude into the making of these choices except the individuals themselves, who should assume and bear the responsibility with divine guidance, parental counsel, and in some cases if necessary the help of a wise bishop."

-"The Odyssey to Happiness," in Speeches of the Year: BYU Devotional and Ten-Stake Fireside Addresses, 1974. 1975, 325

Is Dating Like Voting?

There have been two things on my mind alot lately: Dating and Politics. I've decided the two are very similar.

The list of candidates is large. Some characteristics of the candidates are such that you automatically disqualify them. Others have many qualities you like, but some you dislike. It is near impossible to find the perfect candidate. Weeding through the candidates can be very time consuming. Some candidates spend way too much money trying to woo you.

Oh, and many people are way too apathetic towards the process.

-Bob

How much do you do?

A few weeks ago I had three dates in one week. When questioned about it I pointed out that it was a non-representative spike in dating activity. I see myself slipping back into my quarterly dating I was doing before.

Oddly enough there are always things that get in the way. Here are a few of my favorites.

• Bills came due, I'm broke the rest of the week.
• I forget to call until it's after 10:00. Oops, maybe tomorrow...
  
• She's "busy".
• I'm "busy".
• Friday/Saturday night Relief Society activities.
• I realize I'm interested days before she moves out of the country.
  

There's one more thing we need to address. There are alot of people that can't date me. It's just the way it is.

The biggest thing I avoid is someone who has any shows they just have to watch. For me TV is a waster of minds. It encourages sedentary behavior and dependence on external sources for entertainment.

The moral of this post?

If you're not interested say that instead of "busy".
If there's a relief society activity it might be OK to go on a date instead.
If you want me to like you, don't watch TV.

Is that so hard?

Get that name right

I was checking the updated name change and realized that bob got the wrong name. It's inspired by the title of another blog that I read. Fabulous Adventures in Coding.

Adventures in Dating

Shaun and I were talking on Sunday, and we came up with a new name for this blog. However, I can't remember if this was the correct name or not.

Shaun, please email me if I have the wrong name...

-Bob

An Old Friend

Today, I ran into an old friend of mine while downtown. We talked for a while, and then she needed to return to work, and I walked he there, while we still conversed.

I had, at one point in time, wanted to ask her out. However, annother friend had called dibs, and then acted on the dibs. They went out a few times.

Then, friend #2 took bad advice, and ended the relationship.

Actually, he didn't "end" it so much as not calling her again.

What a shame.

He and she were so much better together than she and I would be.

But, it's his loss, not mine.

-Bob

Extreme Dating

A singles ward that some of my friends attend just instituted a dating program for their ward. While I don't have all the details, these are two details that I know about:

For the sisters, ask 12 boys out in the next 12 months.

For the Brothers, go on 18 dates in the next 3 months. 6 of them should be second dates or more.

The first part, women asking on a date a month, is a good idea. Maybe not quite that many, but women should not be worried about asking a guy out. Stop dancing around the issue, hoping we will ask you out. If you want to go on a sate with us, ask us!

The second is extreme. Start out small, like one date a week (Which is still a lot!) and then move on from there. 1.5/week? Sheesh!

-Bob

Some Good Advice

The following was posted as advice on a friend's MySpace page.

As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let you down probably will.

You will have your heart broken probably more than once and it's harder every time. You'll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken.

You'll fight with your best friend.

You'll blame a new love for things an old one did.

You'll cry because time is passing too fast, and you'll eventually lose someone you LOVE♥.

So take too many pictures, laugh too much, and love like you've
never been hurt because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you'll NEVER get back.

*Don't be afraid that your life will end,
be afraid that it will never begin.

Determining interest

The topic of trying to figure out if a girl is interested has come up recently. In response to Bob's previous post I have the following to suggest...

Time spent wondering if someone likes you is time wasted.
-- Byron (paraphrase)

Ask and you either, A- find out she likes you too, or B- find out she's not interested and are thus free to get moving on finding someone who is interested.

If a girl isn't interested nothing will magicly change about that. You don't have agonize over it for long periods of time leaving yourself emotionally messed up when you finally do come to a conclusion.

Besides, you will never be in a proper relationship with someone unless you talk about what it is you are doing. Believe me, I definitely wish DTR only stood for Data Transmit Ready, but such is not the case...